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What or Who is REALLY Santa?

A Little Poem: What is Santa?

What or Who is REALLY Santa?

What or Who is REALLY "Santa?"

Here is a little poem I wrote about Santa… (NB: I have worked in Malls, and no longer do much “Christmas Shopping” the way it is encouraged by the media)

Apologies to Dr. Seuss for the style!

Maybe he’s mom,
Maybe he’s pop.
Or one of the thousands
Of folks in the shop…

Maybe that cranky one
Trampling another
To get that “must have it”
For sissy or brother…

But I prefer knowing
That Santa’s a presence
You can’t find on TV
Or in purchasing presents…

Santa’s a smile to
That miserable shopper
(You know the one!
You wanted to pop her!)

He’s that donation of food,
Or toys or some money
Given in joy, and
When finally done, he…

Gives more, and more still!
Then… in peace, you will see…
You suddenly don’t care
What’s under your tree.

The end.

Hey… but that’s just me. Guess I’ll do some baking now and send cookies to my friends and family. 🙂

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and Peace to All!


TeleMarketing & General Phone Etiquette

Worst Telemarketing Call in a While!

TeleMarketing & General Phone Etiquette

How NOT to act on the phone

Ok… So this is just a LITTLE off topic regarding personal development. But not THAT far off topic. Actually, now that I think about it, this will really be a good post under the Marketing category. Because as anyone who works in marketing will agree, there is plenty of room for self development!

Last night, the phone rang just around dinner time. Now, whenever the phone rings just around dinner time in our house, it is pretty safe to assume that it is a telemarketing call. Also, the fact that the number was “unknown” is yet another reason to suspect a marketing call.

 Now, first let me say that I do NOT have a problem with telemarketers. It’s a job, and someone is doing that job. I understand and appreciate that.

(Uh… by the way – please do NOT take that as an invitation to call me and market to me! Really… I get enough calls as it is, even though I’m on the “Do Not Call” list.) 🙂

So, anyway, since it was John’s phone that was ringing, he picked up and said Hello. The person on the other end asked for me (using my full name, which no one who actually knows me ever does). John merely asked, “May I tell her who’s calling?”

To which the guy on the other end spat out, “I’ll call her when she’s not being censored!”

Huh? What the…

Now, that is the SECOND time this guy has called, and the SECOND time he has angrily told John that he’d call when I wasn’t being “censored.”

First of all, what is he talking about regarding me being “censored!?” There is absolutely nothing wrong with somone asking who is calling.

Second of all, the guy’s angry tone toward John didn’t exactly warm me up to want to speak with him for ANY reason whatsoever!

TeleMarketing people take note: This is no way to win friends and influence people (unless you really do want to influence them in a negative way enough times so that you’ll lose your job and have something to be angry about).

What if the caller actually had a product that may have been of interest to me? He wouldn’t stand a chance of ever selling it to me now. All he had to do to increase his odds of my accepting his call would have been to:
1) Identify his phone number, and
2) Give us his name and the company he was representing.

Consider, also, the negative energy that the caller was putting out over the ether. Honestly, what kind of results was he attracting to himself?
I really found the whole episode amazing. And the fact that he has called and spoken like this before is even more amazing!

Hopefully, he’ll find another line of work…

Good Personal Development Skill and Habit-Our Morning Lemon Water

Personal Development Skills and Habits

Good Personal Development Skill and Habit-Our Morning Lemon Water

One of our own healthy personal development skills and habits includes a daily dose of lemon water-First Thing!

I sometimes think we acquire certain personal development skills and habits in such subtle ways that we don’t always remember WHEN we began using them – WHERE we learned them, and HOW we knew that they were important to our personal growth to begin with!

The idea of writing about personal development skills and habits we have acquired came to me this morning as I found myself thinking about a daily ritual I have.

Well, actually, I have a LOT of daily rituals – but this one always stands out, because it is one of the very first things I do every morning without fail.

When I rise, I go to the kitchen, cut open a lemon and ream the whole thing – juice AND pulp – and add a full glass of water. Drinking that full 10 – 12 ounce glass of lemon water (unsweetened) is the first thing that I do every day.

I began thinking about this activity, and why I do it:

  • It is fresh citrus – so that’s a nice refreshing addition to the diet right there.
  • It makes me feel like I’ve done something good for me straight away, before any other activities of the day crowd my plate.

But first, I have to say that I cannot think of one single area of my own life where I am not consciously working on improvement.

And I realize that this is part of my life’s work which will continue until the time comes when I leave this earth.

That’s because it is a task that can never be completed. If I’m not acquiring  actual personal development skills – then I’m certainly working on creating good habits and routines that lead to further self growth!

Some of the practices and activities that I introduced into my own life have become wonderful habits and routines as a result!

…habits and routines that I just KNOW contribute to my overall well-being.

Getting back to my daily morning lemon water:
 I can honestly count on one hand the number of days over the last 12 – 15 years where I have NOT begun my day with this drink!

Somewhere along the line (but I cannot remember when or where), I read that this was good for the body. I then discovered that it felt wonderful to have this first thing in the morning. So, I continued it and still do – to this day.

Sometimes we’ll add orange to the mix, but we ALWAYS have the lemon!

I don’t even think about it any more (except when we’re running low on lemons and we have to go buy another bag…)

Another thing that I do every single day is meditate/pray and review certain affirmations. It was a learned skill – and now I do it without thinking.

Another one of my Personal Development Skills and Habits: I meditate and/or pray every day - most of the day.

Another Personal Development Skills and Habits: I meditate and or pray every day – most of the day.

That’s just the start. The many things that I do each day were NOT the result of one single “ah ha” moment – or some drastic decision or action on my part.

I do know that I am continually looking for additional good habits to further improve my life.

I want to hear from YOU!
What I would like to know now is what YOU began to do as part of your own path that has since become a happy and healthy habit. Would you be willing to share your thoughts and experiences?

I hope so! Please leave your ideas and thoughts below so we can compare notes and learn from one another!

PPS: I’ll be adding articles pertaining to personal development skills and habits as I continue to build the site – and will post articles here at my Healthy Living Tips page, as well as at my Life Strategies for Success page (among other pages that I think up as I go along!) 🙂 Thanks for reading!

This exercise is based on Part 8 of Charles Haanel's The Master Key System

An Exercise Inspired by Charles F. Haanel and his Master Key System

This exercise is based on Part 8 of Charles Haanel's The Master Key System

This exercise is based on Part 8 of Charles Haanel’s The Master Key System

If you are a member of my Self Development Strategies newsletter, you may recognize the information in the following post from one of my newsletters.

The inspiration for this topic comes from Part 8 of Charles F. Haanel’s famous The Master Key System – an early self-development correspondence course from around 1917 or so.

First of all, let me say how much I enjoy the The Master Key System. I learned about it some years ago when I was initially beginning my own now-passionate journey of personal development. I got to know the work of Tony Michalski over at Kallisti Publishing, and he is truly one of today’s best known experts on Mr. Haanel’s work.

Anyway, this is an excellent visualization exercise that I would like to share with you, in hopes that it offers a little inspiration and motivation to keep moving forward.

Right now, you are currently sitting at a computer, reading this post.

Have a quick look around the room where you are sitting, and pick out an object – anything will do. A book, perhaps. Or a chair, or table – maybe even your very computer.

Now, take that object, and trace it back in time from where it is now – all the way back to its origin.

For example, the chair in the room came from a store. But before it was at the store, it was in a delivery truck. Before then, it was being painted or upholstered at the factory…

Before then, it was being pieced together… etc. Finally, it was pieces of wood, shaped from a tree which had been trucked over to the lumber mill…

Do you see how this progresses?

Finally, before that, there was a plan that had perhaps been rendered by a draftsman or furniture designer…

And finally, we get to the designer him or herself. He or she had an IDEA in mind – a thought – one way or another about a chair that would look just like the one that currently sits in your room.

The THOUGHT preceded the resulting ITEM, did it not? Someone had to first think about a chair before the chair could be produced.

It is the same with everything. EVERYTHING begins in thought – an idea. The things you are working toward – all your dreams, your goals, your objectives – all these things had to begin with a THOUGHT.

This is why thinking about what you WANT to attain (versus what you do NOT want in your life) is so critical.

This is why we emphasize getting clear about what you want to begin with. Otherwise, if you do not (or if you think only about what you do NOT want), it will be very difficult for you to take action steps toward making those goals come to pass.

And action, as we know, is how we move forward.

So, use this exercise in your own process. Think about some of the wonderful things you have already accomplished in your life, and race the results back to their origin – where they first crossed your mind to begin with.

This should give you the inspiration and faith to know that your current goals and objectives have an exciting journey ahead towards their fulfilment.

By the way: Here is a page on some categories for personal goals and motivation, if you’d like to “nudge” your brain a bit. 🙂

A little more about The Master Key System: I think that one of the reasons I enjoy Mr. Haanel’s instruction so much is that there is no “fluff” surrounding it. He is showing us how to use our minds, our imagination, and our abilities to concentrate in a concrete, step-by-step way.

If you are serious – REALLY serious about learning how to focus and use your power of concentration effectively, then I urge you to have a serious look – you can find The Master Key System at Amazon. I use a lot of personal development tools – and this is, by far, one of my favorites. Tell Tony I say hi! 🙂

PS: If, for some reason, you have not yet bought a copy of my Goal Planning Strategies Guide and newsletter, please visit my Self Development Strategies site! If you decide to buy it, I thank you!

PPS: If you would like to read another article inspired by Charles F. Haanel, here is the link => On Giving and Receiving – Inspired by Charles F. Haanel.

Goal Planning: What kind of game would soccer be without goal nets?

Goal Planning: Why I feel it’s so important

Goal Planning: What kind of game would soccer be without goal nets?

Soccer without goals would not be much of a game.

I recently (well… October 2010 that is) wrote a book called Personal Goal Setting Strategies: A Guide to Understanding and Planning Goals and Objectives. (2015 update – New edition came out in June 2014!!)

Actually, since you are here, you may already have a copy of this book, or are a member of my newsletter.

Do you know how many people search online for help with goal planning every month? I did a quick search out of curiosity, and was stunned to see that the following statistics for search terms related to goal planning (the numbers are approximately how many people search that term globally in a month):

Personal Goal Setting => 3,600 searches
Goal Setting Exercises => 3,600 searches
Smart Goal Setting = > 5,400 searches
Setting Goals and Objectives = > 1,900 searches
Setting and Achieving Goals => 1,600 searches

These are just a FEW of the terms people search for regarding goals and goal setting.

If this many people are looking for help with goal setting, then this must be an important topic indeed! Would you not agree?

Anyone who knows me knows how much importance and value I place on setting goals and objectives.

Here is why: Without a goal, you can’t really move. You would have no direction.

Look at any game like soccer or football – without goal posts or nets, there’s no game.

Being the visual sort of person that I am, I can’t help but picture a soccer field without goal nets at either end – I see all these soccer players hanging around in the middle of the field just kicking the ball back and forth and around in circles aimlessly. None of them are kicking with any real vigor – just sort of lethargically and mindlessly passing the ball around. I also picture them all with a rather quizzical look on their faces, as though they’re all wondering, “So, what exactly ARE we doing here? What are we supposed to do with this ball?”

A goal – no matter how small – can be what it takes to spur us into some sort of action.

Take my visualization of the soccer players without their goal nets. Now… take the same scene, and this time – all of a sudden people bring 2 goal nets onto the field – one at each end. Almost as if by magic, the players on the field suddenly see that there is something that they can kick the ball into – something they can begin moving toward on the field. Now they can take some ACTION, and the fun has begun.

So, without a goal, you won’t take action. Without action, there’s just no game. And without a game to play, a goal to attain, something to work for – there’s just no fun.

I like Gary Ryan Blair’s approach to his Personal Strategic Plan. He isn’t known as “The Goals Guy” for no reason – His programs include competition (maybe not quite like soccer!) and accountability. Without accounting for your goals and actions, most people simply will not take the actions required to succeed.

Get some goals! Any goal that will entice you to move, take action, and enter the game… Then, be accountable!

You won’t be sorry!

🙂 Kath
PS: Have you heard of Gary Ryan Blair the “Goals Guy?” If so, you already know that he is one of the premier motivators in the United States! If you want to REALLY kick yourself into high gear and become VERY effective, please visit this site and get your own Personal Strategic Plan. => CLICK HERE